lesson 1: The HATEFUL WORDS

If you're in a relationship, this is one of, if not THE biggest mistake u can make! (next to cheating n beating) Once you've said the HATEFUL WORDS, they CANNOT be taken back!! You see, most of us sane people forgive and forget, but when you are the target of these words (we all know the words and I'm not gonna glorify them here) they echo in the back of our mind, and reverberate through our souls every time we hear or see the person who said them. Know that once you've said these words, you have sabotaged all chances of attaining your relationships FULL potential !   Don't get me wrong, I see plenty of couples who say these words on a daily basis, too many, and still claim they are in love with their partners and spend their whole life together. But that's not true love. I don't want to know WHAT that is, but its no way to live, at all !! What you end up with is a life filled with sorrow, regret, discontent, and sometimes even malice! If you think, or know you have said the HATEFUL WORDS, try to remember exactly what they were,(because your target definitely does) then respectfully and sincerely apologize to them. :) This wont change anything, but its a start for sure! :) What we have to learn to do people, is recognize when things are getting out of hand, then !!!STOP!!! and put yourself in the others shoes. COMPASSION . This is the word of the day.  :) Compassion is feeling what the other person feels. To be successful in a relationship, you have to have honesty, respect, encouragement, trust, compromise, and compassion. Without all of these present, the truest form of love will be unattainable. For once you've lost one, you've lost the rest of them too. Bottom line, if you are truly in love with someone, you NEVER want to see them in even the slightest amount of pain, emotionally or physically. If you've ever cheated on or beat on or said the hateful words, know that you were/are not in love. If you are/were in a relationship where you get cheated on or beaten or are the target of HATEFUL WORDS, know that this is not love. This is THE MOST COMMON MISCONCEPTION OF LOVE, and that's all it has the potential of ever being.  !!!NEVER SAY THE HATEFUL WORDS!!!   -SteveBurns                        P.S. : hurtful/hateful - pretty much the same thing :)